Cost of Avoided Conversation

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Frustration when the PO declines meetings…

In a recent 1-1 coaching session, a Scrum Master told me:
“The meeting was declined again by the Product Owner, without any reason.
I feel disrespected and not valued.”

● I hear this frustration often from Scrum Masters and Project Managers.

➙ Meetings get cancelled or declined at the last minute

➙ Delivery risks remain hidden
➙ Decisions stay unclear for weeks
➙ Motivation slowly drops

● When meetings are repeatedly cancelled, deeper issues start to appear.
➙ Trust between the PO and the team reduces
➙ Teams stop raising important concerns
➙ Dependencies remain unresolved
➙ Frustration turns into silent disengagement

Silence always costs more than conflict.

● From my experience, I have learned that
this situation usually happens due to pressure on the PO.
➙ POs handle too many business priorities and escalations
➙ There is a lack of clarity on the meeting’s value or purpose
➙ Stakeholder expectations are not clearly managed by the Scrum Master

● Here are a few actions I recommended to the Scrum Master.
➙ These worked well and may help you as well:
➙ Clarify the meeting purpose with a clear agenda
➙ Have a direct one-on-one conversation with the PO
➙ Link the meeting need and outcome to business impact
➙ Escalate repeated patterns, not a single incident

If meetings keep getting declined,
your role is not to accept it silently.

Your role is to establish clarity, focus, and flow.

Silence protects no one.
Respect grows when courage replaces comfort.

● Have you faced this as a Scrum Master or Project Manager?
Share how you handled repeated meeting cancellations.
Your experience might help someone else feel less alone.

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♻️  Share this if someone in your team is silently dealing with cancelled meetings.